I torqued it to 35 but didnt do it in the rite order i thought i did but it was complety off first one side then the other hayns told me to so yea any way could thay b y i got coolent in my oil or does that point to a way worse problm like crack

 

Yea a leaking intake manifold could definitely cause water in the oil. I'de recommend pulling the intake using a new gasket. Other things you may have overlooked is cleaning out the threads on the bolts and in the head. If there not perfectly clean it will throw off your torque values when you go to bolt it up. Also don't forget to use thread sealant as some of the intake bolts go into the water jacket. Also use the gasket sealer as recomended by the directions included with the intake manifold gasket.

 

First of all, what did you torque to 35? (the cylinder heads?) And was that ft-lbf OR N-m? Did you use a gasket? What gasket? Did you use any sealant? We could help you a lot more if you would write down precisely what you are doing.